Setting The Stage For Tantric Sex

More often than not, we look at sex as a form of entertainment, rather than a path of personal enhancement and spiritual bonding with our partner. This is not surprising. Our careers, emotional insecurities and general distaste  for all that is not immediately within grasp don’t allow us any other attitude. When it comes to actual sex, the preoccupation with attaining orgasm often overrides all other considerations.

However, tantric sex focuses on some very different aspects of sexual union between two human beings. Apart from placing high importance on offering pleasure to our lover too, tantra and tantric sex aims to break down any physical, spiritual and emotional barriers that may exist between partners.

While instructing on tantra for couples, the tantra teacher’s objective is to bring about changes that elevate the relationship of his pupils at the subliminal level. The aim here is to divest the relationship of all selfishness and angst, and to make it a spiritual experience that brings the two partners closer together than ever before.

A tantra teacher guiding a couple on the intricacies of tantra sex will constantly emphasize that the partners must approach the sex act with appropriate reverence and respect. This is never more true than when they are setting out to practice sex-oriented tantra techniques.

The Bedroom As A Tantra Temple

To begin with, the transition from a merely carnal to a spiritual approach to sex can most definitely not take place in a commonplace setting. An unmade bed in a depressingly untidy bedroom may be okay for soulless quickies, but such a background is unsuitable for the practice of tantric sex. The bed should comfortable, and the bed sheets and pillowcases clean. Incense or aromatic oils should perfume the room to elevate the senses and soothe the spirit. The lighting should be soft and flattering to the human form – not bright and harsh in a way that highlights every blemish and imperfection.

Ensure utter and uncompromising privacy. Nothing and nobody must distract you from what you are about to do for each other. You are each others’ world – the rest of the world must be suspended and eliminated. Switch off all communication devices, and also the doorbell. The stage is now set for creating an intimate connection between the two partners. They can now proceed to begin on the primary tantra techniques that their tantra master has instructed them in.

Focus On The Journey – Not The Destination

In tantra sex, there is no destination – the journey is all. At all times, the couple must remember that it is not about attaining orgasm, but about creating, maintaining and heightening their intimacy to an act of loving, erotic worship. The intimacy exercises they will engage in are not merely foreplay, but erotic tantra rituals.

Holding each other’s gaze as much as possible is vitally important. The eyes are the windows of the soul – and as your tantra teacher has told you, it is a soul connection that you are striving for here. You will find that prolonged eye contact at all stages of tantric lovemaking will also sustain the sexual ecstasy and energy for much longer than would otherwise be possible.

Do not hurry into intercourse. Rather, indulge each other with soft, gentle kisses for at least twenty minutes. Avoid direct genital contact for that period. If you are uncomfortable with utter silence in this period, whisper tender words of endearment to each other. Communicate your love and cherishment for each other by verbal and nonverbal means. If you find yourself being swept away by desire to launch into intercourse, concentrate on your breathing. Avoid hyperventilating; engage in tantra breathing, softly and evenly.

This is the very first stage of tantra sex, and it must not be circumvented. Divine sexual bliss awaits as you slowly segue into the more intense erotic techniques and tantra positions taught to you by your tantra teacher.

Acharya Subhojit Dasgupta is a Tantra Teacher with an in-depth knowledge of traditional Indian sciences and Sanskrit literature.

Discovering Tantra, The Ancient Art Of Pleasure

Here is a sad fact – nothing that you ever hoped to gain from the ancient art of tantra will come to fruition if you follow one of its pop-culture variants.

The market is rife with people expounding knowledge of tantra techniques that they claim to have acquired from the East. The fact is that many of them have only been exposed to or understood limited aspects of the vast body of tantra knowledge.

You, who seek the true path, need more than superficial knowledge and concoctions of half-truths mixed with New Age fables aimed at a good, fast read. There is a reason why there is so much secrecy surrounding the authentic spiritual Tantra practices – it is meant only for true seekers.

The tantric way is far from easy. It is Tantra is the very life blood of spiritual practice, and this blood rushes in hot streams. It has the power to utterly vanquish all futile concepts of happiness and replace them with a fierce new path of unthought-of bliss and power.

For that reason, its ways are preserved for those who genuinely wish to transform their lives. Tantra is not the way of the Lotus Eater – it is the path of the tiger.

To learn tantra, you need unswerving motivation, genuine intentions and unyielding integrity of purpose. Because of all the puerile, soft-core hype that has been attached to tantra and tantric techniques in the recent past, your tantra teacher may have to help you unlearn everything you have picked up about this sacred science so far.

Ask yourself this: we claim to have all the comforts of modern life, but are we feeling pleasured at all? How many orgasms have you had in your entire life? According to the most recent research, close to 70% of all women alive today have never reached an orgasm during sexual intercourse.

In most cases, human beings have surrendered to a future bereft of anything close to true pleasure. They are instead satisfied with the fleeting satisfaction of wealth amassment and electronic gadgetry -  and the cold comfort of  superficial spiritual boluses.

The order of the ancient tantra master knew where humankind was headed. These pioneers of tantra may not have seen iPads, the vibrators and the unfortunate arrival of Viagra in their visions of the future, but they knew that we are chronically focused on Easy Street.

They knew that in the end, even the sacred teachings that they held would be diluted, bastardized and served up in impotent forms for the consumption of those who would not choose the path of authentic tantra.

Disturbed by these visions, they wrapped their hard-earned knowledge in the cloak of almost impenetrable secrecy. The traditional secrets of tantra were only handed down a bloodline of genuine tantra teachers.

These teachers survive to the present day, and they hold the key to the True Path. By learning and using authentic tantric techniques under their supervision, you can still discover how to live life to the fullest.

The Path of Tantra cannot be divorced from its fundamentals; but by learning the intricacies of tantric breathing and visualization from a genuine tantra master, you can learn how to trigger the charmananda bindu to release sexual energy from the sex organs up the spine to the back of the brain. You can learn how to ride the waves of tantric orgasm and also achieve enlightenment.

Acharya Subhojit Dasgupta is a Tantra Teacher with an in-depth knowledge of traditional Indian sciences and Sanskrit literature.

Why learn Tantra – Connecting with your Tantric soul…

In this day and age people have started looking upon life like they would upon coffee – they want it instant. Nirvana is no less for them. They want that in an instant too. This hunger for everything – fame, riches, sex – has had most people reaching out for quantity, not quality, reducing what could be unimaginable pleasure to a mere fraction of its potential.

Most relationships are fragmented because there is little time and energy to enjoy what they have as they spend most of their time striving for more. This continuous desire feeds on itself, and it seems that the more you get, the more you want; nothing is ever enough. And thus unhappiness is created and most people end up abusing alcohol, drugs etc to “escape” reality and Whatever bit of happiness is snatched from a few fleeting moments, is short-lived as no one can escape reality.
 
A quick fix is wanted for every situation and desire in life. But life is meant to be savoured, and hurrying through the journey to the finishing line is hardly the most qualitative way to live. With the kind of environment that most of us grow up in and live in, it is hard for most of us to believe that there is any other way to live.

But Tantra says that there is an alternative, the only alternative; in fact, it is the only way to live as Happiness comes from the simple things in life. Tantra dates back to eternity and originated in India for expanding the human consciousness and ecstatic states of bliss and peace.

It’s a spiritual lifestyle that is grounded in simple embodied practices that return us to our natural state of inner freedom and divine love. There are many different levels within Tantra, offering different principles of awareness and practice.

A proper, dedicated study of Tantra under the guidance of Acharya Subhojit Dasgupta will empower you with the right means and methods of enjoying a satisfying sensual life, which in turn will enable you to be well and truly happy. Tantra is not a religion, but a way of life. The good life. Tantra shows us the right path to peace of mind; Tantra shows us the right path to true happiness.

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Subhojit Dasgupta is a teacher of Tantra