Now we are going to open a secret world for you, a world so completely different from the one that you know, it will amaze you with its simplicity. Today, whenever you are offered anything, and you buy it, more often than not you are disappointed after the initial excitement. What you thought was great turned out to be not-so-great – a broken promise. Stop a while, take a moment and think that over. And let me tell you that the same holds true for your sex life.
The Age Of The Quick-Fix
There was a time when life was simpler; it revolved around your family and loved ones. Heck, maybe even just your TV. Today the world is a global village and our lives are constantly bombarded with brands, new products, quick-fix pills and images of success and happiness if we buy into the whole advertising machinery.
We live on manufactured expectations that are so cleverly crafted that we do not even realize how unrealistic, false and psychologically degrading they are. You don’t wear this brand? You’re a loser. You don’t have a hot girlfriend or a boyfriend? You’re such a loser! You don’t have an ipod? Man, how can you even have a smile on your face! You have no reason to be happy! You don’t party every night? You’re so dull that nobody would want to be your friend.
Directly or indirectly, these messages hit us every single day, every single moment, from the moment your day begins till you go to sleep. Consciously or unconsciously, your mind absorbs these messages … and you begin to think that everybody is having a better time than you are. Today, we are taken in by these images, by these insinuations that without this and without that, our lives are meaningless. And sex tops the list as one of the tools used to keep people hooked onto lifestyle products.
I’m indignant to see that Tantra is often used as a buzzword for selling sex and lifestyle to people. Let me tell all of you who may have encountered such people, that they are highly inauthentic. They know that sex can be used to gain attention, that people can be convinced to pay exorbitant sums of money, and the promise of sex can be used to hold one’s attention long enough to swindle him.
Actually, we need not even go that far. Viagra and similar drugs are being peddled as the be-all and end-all solution when it comes to enhancing one’s sex life. Then there are massage oils, clit creams, oysters … the list is endless – so let’s not even start on that.
Viagra has been known to cause the complete collapse of the male sexual equipment after a point of time. Each sexual supplement has been created keeping certain uniform criteria in mind, disregarding the fact that each person has different sexual capacities due to their genetic make-up and lifestyles. No two people can have the same drive and thus, no two people can have the same reactions to supplements when taken over a certain period of time.
These pills and creams are, in truth, meant for people with sexual disorders: for women who suffer from frigidity and for men who suffer from erectile dysfunction. However, this percentage is small. Not more than 10% of the world’s population suffers from these two disorders.
We are not doctors, we do not claim to have special knowledge in their treatments; we are not telling you to stop taking your medication (if you do), but we are saying that you can prevent this. A man suffers from erectile dysfunction because he feels insecure about getting it up, whereas a woman suffers from frigidity because she feels unloved. And to advertise their drugs as lifestyle necessities is near-criminal!
Do you know the damage that can be inflicted upon your organs if you use these pills for a sufficient amount of time? The sudden rush of blood that is caused by Viagra can lead to extending the penis beyond its accustomed level, and ultimately cause its collapse. Once that level is reached, no improvement can be gained. The muscles are damaged permanently and we do not want such a thing to happen to anyone.
Tantra has remedies for everything that ails your life. Start early and the benefits will make their presence felt quicker and prevent any disorders that might have been coming your way. I have experienced the philosophy of Tantra, and what this philosophy can do for you, in the physical, material and spiritual planes no pill, no thesis, no creams can.
Tantra And The Mind-Body Connection
There is one important thing that needs to be said here – that no external substance can ignite desire in you. This is what Tantra says. There is no such delicacy, pill, herb or medicine that can arouse you other than the organ between your two ears … not the one between your legs. Sex lies between the two ears, not between the two legs.
Tantra advocates something that we are quick to forget – a mind-body connection. That, my friends, is the only thing that can give us that awesome sex we crave. Our organs are connected to the brain, and we need to use that brain to enhance our sensations. Why don’t people use this connection given to us by nature to enhance their lives? This is because people don’t like to take responsibility for their failures. They don’t want to accept that they fail to work on themselves. They feel safer when they blame an external factor – and that’s where they go wrong. Why not carry the flame of self-belief within you? Viagra and its counterparts are so transient in their effects. With the right learning you can carry that divine ecstasy around with you all the time.
Ah, I know what you are thinking – why are we talking about sex here? Frankly speaking, I am talking about something that is going to add a new dimension to your life – the mind-body connection. My purpose is to make you understand the way sex is portrayed in the media. That understanding helps you break free from their spell and to help you realize that you do not need them.
Sex And Spirituality
I believe that Tantric Sex is the real sex; it is the highest level of pleasure and consciousness available to us in this physical world, and it is a shame not to enjoy it more often. Don’t get me wrong, I am not advocating fast and loose sex, but a solid connection that should exist between your mind and body, and you and your partner. That connection turns the act of sex into a moment of sadhana, or spiritual ecstasy.
Tantric sex is an art, almost akin to splashing vivid happy colours of every hue imaginable onto a stark white canvas. Each hue represents a different nuance in the dance of love. The connection is so good that one can become like a Picasso painting masterpieces in a frenzy of creative expression!
Tantra may not be only about sex, but it definitely acknowledges sex as the highest form of creative expression through pleasure, by which one gets a glimpse of what it must feel like to attain nirvana or salvation. The philosophy of Tantra can help you harmonise your wealth and desire with your consciousness and salvation. This is the truth and this is what you need.
The Upanishads tell a tale about a frog who lived in a well. It knew nothing beyond the well and was quite happy with it. One day another frog jumped into his well and was shocked to see the tiny place the first frog called home. Even when he told the first frog that there is a world outside his well, the second frog refused to believe him.
The second frog even offered to show him how big the world can be, but the first frog held on to his argument stubbornly. Finally the second frog left. He left and saw the world and had a myriad of experiences. The first frog sat smugly in his well, smothering that niggling doubt the second frog had aroused, and saw nothing, knew nothing. Are you the first frog? I hope not.
Most people are startled by the philosophy that states that life’s every moment should be a moment of ecstasy. To the average mind, Sex and Spirituality are as far apart as chalk and cheese. To a tantra expert, not so. For each requires a higher level of conscious awareness …
Can a man perform sexually while he is asleep? Can he when he is unconscious? Tantra explains the human mind completely in a simple, direct fashion. All it asks is that you learn it and enjoy practicing it!
How To Learn Tantra
Just picking up self-help books from bookstores is not enough; you have to adapt the methods to your life. You’ll get advice from all corners, but if you do not exercise your consciousness in these matters, then none of it will work for you, rather, they will work against you.
Tantra is an artistic science as well as a scientific art. The philosophy outlines a path through which you can enhance each and every part of your life, not just your sex life. And, yes, Tantra believes that sex is associated with divinity. If you have mastered Tantric Sex, then you have reached the highest stage of consciousness of your earthly body, and are ready to move on to bigger and better things.
Ancient India knew this; the Kama Sutra is derived from Tantric practices. But thereafter society has only been in denial. Denial because the puritanical viewpoint was that human beings had to suffer in order to learn and progress. Spiritual enhancement was identified with sorrow, penitence, abstinence and the denial of every good feeling the body might experience. But Tantra knows otherwise; the true follower of Tantra knows otherwise. I know that without desire, without enjoyment, one can never learn, never move forward.
There are more than eight million Tantric mudras and their permutations and combinations that can lead to a highly fulfilling and satisfying life. As a teacher of tantra, I have learned how to incorporate these into my life. You can learn them too; for you deserve to be happy, truly happy, and we are here to teach you.
Why waste time and energy on pills, creams and oils that can only give the illusion of pleasure when you can have the real thing? Enlightenment is your birthright – and we will give it to you.
I have been a tantra teacher for a long time now, so I can help you in your quest for a better life. If India spells exotica to you, I invite you to revel in that exotica. Divine freedom and ecstasy will spill over into every aspect of your life with time.
These practices not only help you achieve divinity but also enhance your relationships, fuel your career, enrich your familial ties and make you fall in love with life. Stop living like an animal where you eat, work, have sex and fall asleep, not even conscious of your own breathing.
Being in the maze of life without awareness and consciousness will lead you nowhere. Come find your way out of that maze into the divine light.
Copyright (C) Subhojit Dasgupta
Subhojit Dasgupta is a teacher of Tantra