Should You Use Performance Enhancement Drugs During Tantra Sex?

The issue of Viagra use in context with tantra sex is one which crops up in most of my initial tantra lessons with new students. This is not surprising. It would appear that most men above 40 (and often much younger ones) have turned to Viagra or its equivalents in order to enhance libido and sexual performance.

Also, most couples seeking out a tantra teacher are unaware of the fact that the tantric arts are not just about sex. Such discussions are therefore inevitable.

As a tantra teacher, I do not take a moralistic stance on sexual performance enhancement drugs and aphrodisiacs. Suffice it to say that once you have progressed sufficiently in your tantra instructions, you will find them unnecessary.

This may not sound realistic, since many men depend almost exclusively on these drugs when it comes to sexual performance. However, the fact is that students of ancient tantra simply have no need for such ‘modern’ pharmaceutical interventions. To understand how this is possible, it is important to understand why drugs such as Viagra are being used in the first place.

Most of the time, there are no physical justifications for their use. Most men use these drugs because of psychological underpinnings. They believe that they cannot ‘rise to the occasion’ unless they avail of such artificial boosters.

Also, they have found that as long as sexual desire exists, they are able to use these performance-enhancing drugs regardless of who their partners are, or how they feel about them. However, the fact is that as long as there is a sufficient level of bonding, cherishing and trust between two physically healthy partners, no such interventions are required at all.

Such a level of love and trust can only exist between a man and woman who have learned to connect to each other at a spiritual level – a worshipful level.

Tantra sex takes place in a worshipful setting of mutual reverence and connectedness. Once a couple has learned to achieve these with the help of a genuine tantric master, all inhibitions and feelings of ineptness and inadequacy fall away. Love now exists in its natural state, and at a much higher level than ever before. Moreover, the regular practice of tantra meditation and tantric exercises hone body and mind to a hitherto unthought-of level of fitness.

I will not denounce the use of drugs such as sildenafil or tadalafil by men who have never been introduced to the tantric way of life. However, I assure them that once they integrate the precepts and practices of ancient tantra into their lives, they will never need such artificial help again.

Acharya Subhojit Dasgupta is a Tantra Teacher with deep knowledge of traditional Indian sciences. Visit his tantra online guide for Tantra Lessons from this young Tantra Master.

Spiritual Detachment In The Tantra Relationship

At first, the two concepts of ‘detachment’ and ‘relationship’ seem to be incompatible. A tantra teacher who touches on this subject will usually hear questions such as, “How can one be detached in a relationship? Will detachment in a relationship not utterly ruin the whole thing?”

 But we are not discussing typical relationships, and also not typical detachment. Spiritual detachment is the removal of hindering bonds with the material world and everything it stands for in order to glimpse and connect with the Divine. The Divine has nothing in common with the material world, which is after all our own creation. The Divine, on the other hand, has created Life itself.

Nor is a tantra relationship a ‘normal’ relationship. It is based on divine precepts – the teachings of ancient tantra as being transmitted by a tantra master. In a human relationship based on divine precepts, the material world must fade into the background. It cannot be vanquished altogether – no tantra teacher will demand such a feat from his students. But it must diminish, or else there can be no spiritual progress in the relationship.

When two people set out on the spiritual path of tantra, they make a new commitment. Their commitment now goes beyond that which they have made towards each other – it now extends to the Divine, as well. They commit to base their love for each other on spiritual principles. They pledge to open their hearts, souls and bodies to a vastly greater experience of love than they have ever known.

The fruit of the spiritual path of tantric love is not easy. At every step, people undergoing tantra for couples instructions encounter the discomfort of having to abandon their previous preconceptions about love. They learn that they are, in fact, not to be devoted to each other as much as to the tantric path.

Initially, this seems to go against most modern norms for relationships models such as marriage. The fact is, it does not. Every religion requires two people entering into matrimony to vow before God that they will cherish each other in the eyes of God. God is to be the constant witness of their fidelity, dedication to each other and efforts to meet each others’ needs. In a way, a love triangle is formed, with God as the third partner. They are not alone.

In tantra love, the tantric path requires the couple to focus on its spiritual teachings.  They must cease looking only at themselves, each other and their love for each other.  They learn to see each others as instruments of a higher cosmic order. Their emotional and spiritual needs must certainly be met, but they must now be met in context with this path.

This is why detachment is necessary for tantric love to flourish. Do not be afraid – you will not have to abandon each other. In fact, you are going to discover each other for the very first time. Trust your tantra master and listen carefully as he transmits this ancient knowledge to you. When you learn to love each other with spiritual detachment and your focus on a higher purpose, love will spill its banks and soar to the heavens.

Acharya Subhojit Dasgupta is a Tantra Teacher with deep knowledge of traditional Indian sciences. Visit his tantra online guide for Tantra Lessons from this young Tantra Master.

Using Tantra To Increase your Intimacy Quotient

Those who have studied tantra and are applying its precepts and practices in their love lives know one fundamental truth – intimacy and sex are not necessarily the same thing. This is why I make it a point to refer to ‘sexual intimacy’ specifically as such.

Sex can definitely derive from intimacy, which is nothing but a deep bond between two people – a bond based on constant mutual cherishing. This is sexual intimacy, or sex which happens within the purview of a loving relationship.

However, sex can happen even outside an intimate relationship. When this happens, it is not sexual intimacy, because the bond based on mutual cherishing is absent. Often, in such sexual encounters the partners are not attuned and acclimatized to each other. They may not even know each other at all. Or the sexual act may happen in an environment of violence, such as in rape or in so-called ‘make up sex’.

Tantra has nothing to do with sexual activity outside a loving, cherishing relationship. It is all about building a deep bond of love, worship and adoration between two intimate partners. When used in this context, tantric practices are indeed a powerful and transformative force.

When learned under the guidance of a tantra master, this ancient science of love and life can repair, bulwark and elevate human relationships to a celestial level. Sex becomes an extension of a worshipful attitude towards each other. It involves not merely the bodies but the minds and souls of the intimate partners.

In tantric sex, intimacy is raised to the highest level. The intimate partners have learned extensively about themselves and each other. They have identified their own and their partners’ blocks to genuine intimacy and have put in focused work to overcome these. There is no guilt, fear or holding back of any kind involved. It is a cosmic dance of liberated souls and bodies which have been conditioned for intimacy by specific tantra rituals and exercises.

When sex happens between strangers, non-consenting people or under any unnatural conditions, there is no place for true intimacy. All that is being satisfied is a selfish quest for physical release. There is no desire to satisfy the other – or, if it exists, such desire is based on an insane delusion. Tantric sex cannot take place between two unprepared people. It is the highest expression of love and intimacy between two people who cherish each other.

When two mutually cherishing partners use tantra to improve their love for each other, they become united in wondrous and mystical ways. There are no limitations – the Heavens themselves open up to shower a blessing of celestial joy on the couple. Are you and your partner prepared for such a union? Then you are ready to learn the mysteries of tantric intimacy from a genuine tantra teacher.

Acharya Subhojit Dasgupta is a Tantra Teacher with deep knowledge of traditional Indian sciences. Visit his tantra online guide for Tantra Lessons from this young Tantra Master.