Understanding Tantra Massage

Many students of tantra are confused about what an authentic tantra massage really is. This is understandable, since there are a lot of false operators out there hoping to pander to people’s baser instincts. They hope to sell a ‘erotic massage’ under this banner. It is no secret that tantra is a very marketable concept; couple it with the word ‘massage’ and you have a seemingly unbeatable sales proposition.

To begin with, one needs to clarify the difference between an erotic massage and a tantra massage. An erotic massage is designed to arouse the client sexually, and it often involves the manipulation of sexual organs. There is nothing more to it. The attraction of such a ‘service’ can be imagined. However, this is NOT tantra massage.

A tantric massage, on the other hand, primarily targets your overall health and wellbeing. The fact that sexual wellbeing is part of the overall health paradigm is factored in and catered to – but sexual gratification is not the main focus of a tantra massage. Rather, it is a method of using sensual touch in an ancient ritual that connects two human beings at all levels. It also allows the recipient’s mind to be free of the usual mundane processes that occupy it during a normal day, and to enter a spiritual plane.

When performed by an expert who has been trained by an experienced tantra teacher, tantric massage has definite physical benefits. The body is able to absorb and process oxygen more efficiently, and blood circulation improves dramatically. Importantly, the body is able to rid itself of the muscular tensions that are both the symptoms and causes of stress. As the tantra massage progresses, many portals that were previously shut begin to open. The portal of sexual intimacy is just one of them.

When a proper, ritual-based tantric massage is administered by one loving partner to another, it can bring them closer in many ways. In the first place, the recipient is not in ‘performance’ mode – he or she must relax and ‘receive’ pleasure. This is extremely therapeutic. If done consistently, being able to receive in such a manner can heal many rifts of spirit and psyche that impede love and intimacy.

By the same coin, the partner performing the tantra massage has the opportunity to transmit pleasurable feelings without expecting the same in return. In other words, he or she learns to give without reservations or expectations – and this ability is so integral to healthy intimate relationship.

If you want to know more about the healing powers of tantra massage, contact a proficient tantra master. There is no reason why you should deny yourself – and your partner – this wonderful, spiritual experience.

Acharya Subhojit Dasgupta is a Tantra Teacher with an in-depth knowledge of traditional Indian sciences and Sanskrit literature. Visit his tantra online guide for Tantra Lessons, kriyas and mudras from this young Tantra Master.

Tantra Yoni Puja – Worship Of The Sacred Feminine

Ancient tantra is inextricably entwined with the concept of the original tantra goddess Shakti. To be more precise, Shakti is the symbolic representation of the tantra perception of the sacred feminine. This is how an authentic tantra teacher views all women, and this is how any student of tantra must view them too. Your tanta master must teach you that there is no difference between worshiping the tantra goddess Shakti and worshiping your woman. Only then will you enter the true spirit of this ancient art of love and life.

Just as Shakti is symbolic of the tantra goddess in every woman, the yoni (vagina) is symbolic of woman herself. In many ways, it is the source and font of her divine feminineness and power. Ancient tantra considers it appropriate – and in fact mandatory – to worship the yoni as a sacred object. It is from the yoni that all life emanates, and it must be regarded and treated with that in mind.

This is where the concept of tantra yoni puja comes in. An appropriate form of yoni puja is the yoni massage. It is an act of love and obeisance to the tantra goddess in your woman. Remember, such worship does not have to be by a male alone. Tantra accepts and encompasses same-sex relationships, so a tantra yoni puja can and should be performed by a woman for her woman lover, as well. In fact, this is an extremely sacred act since it amounts to tantra goddesses venerating each other. Only a woman can truly understand another, and it is common knowledge that women share a delicate, indefinable bond that transcends male comprehension. Certainly, such a bond cannot be replicated in the world of males.

Interestingly, this woman—to-woman variant often comes across as strange to a tantra novice. Many initiates into this sacred art automatically assume that tantra is essentially a man-woman model. However, it should be remembered that though the lingam (penis) is certainly instrumental in procreation, it is the woman that nourishes life. Therefore, tantra holds woman-woman sexual relationships at least as divine as those between men and women. It is unfortunate that lesbianism has been given such a despicable status by the porn industry. It illustrates the fact that we have forgotten that woman-woman sexual relations were considered normal in ancient times, and for all the right reasons. Today, they have been reduced to a means for titillating men’s sexual fantasies.

Regarding woman as the impersonification of the sacred feminine is intrinsic and fundamental to tantra practice. A good tantra teacher will drive this truth home again and again during his tantra instructions, until it becomes second nature to his pupils. Without this mindset, it becomes impossible to grasp the deeper spiritual concepts that operate in ancient tantra. It in no way diminishes the status of the male, for no divine entity is complete without the ones that worship it. The man retains his importance in the cycle of life. However, he must abandon any pre-existing notions of inherent male superiority and concepts of women as the ‘weaker sex’.

Man – your woman is a tantra goddess. She is Shakti. Even if she is not able to produce children, her yoni is still symbolic of the sacred feminine. Tantra yoni puja or worship is how you display your acceptance of that fact. Woman – never regard yourself as less than a goddess of tantra, for this is your true nature. Your yoni is the nexus of your feminine power. Never allow it to be abused or objectified; guard its divinity as you would any sacred idol.

Acharya Subhojit Dasgupta is a Tantra Teacher with an in-depth knowledge of traditional Indian sciences and Sanskrit literature. Visit his tantra online guide for Tantra Lessons, kriyas and mudras from this young Tantra Master.

How To Perform A Tantra Lingam Massage

In tantra, lingam massage is an integral aspect of both honoring and nurturing the male sexual organ. The name ‘lingam’ is Sanskrit for ‘the wand/rod of light.’ Honouring and nurturing the lingam with a lingam massage is appropriate and desirable according to ancient tantra, since this organ is both the storehouse and conduit of tantra energy and sensual pleasure in the male. The correct technique must be learned from an accomplished tantra teacher.

During a tantra lingam massage, it should be borne in mind that orgasm is NOT the objective or the focus. Rather, this revered tantra ritual aims to help the man explore the complete spectrum of his ability to experience sensual pleasure. Orgasm, if it is attained during a tantra lingam massage, is at best to be considered a happy incidental event.

It is not only the shaft of the penis itself that is massaged during a lingam massage. The massage should include the perineum, as well as the testicles and prostate. Contrary to common belief, the experience is not always something that an uninitiated man is entirely comfortable with. This is especially true if the man is typically focused on performance, since a tantra lingam massage is not about male sexual performance but about surrendering to passive, externally applied pleasure.

Your tantra master will tell you that an important prerequisite to a lingam massage that edifies both the giver and the receiver is the correct attitude. The receiver must be able to relax, put aside his usual need to prove himself sexually, and receive pleasure gratefully. The giver, on the other hand, must maintain the necessary degree of reverence for this ancient tantra ritual.

The massage begins with the man lying on his back with his head propped up sufficiently to gaze up at his partner. Likewise, his hips should be propped up, his legs slightly spread and knees partially bent. Prior to the actual lingam massage, both the giver and receiver should engage in a long moment of tantra breathing in order to relax and get into the right spirit of the ritual.

The partner then anoints the lingam and testicles with fragrant oil and starts the massage at the testicles. Obviously, this must be done with utmost care, and with careful observation of the man’s face for any sign of discomfort or actual pain. Particular emphasis should be given to the perineum, where the partner should linger long enough to relax this sensitive area between the anus and testicles. The massage then proceeds to scrotum, the area of the pubic bone and further upwards.

The partner then proceeds to apply gentle, uniform hand pressure on the base of the lingam, working slowly upwards. A good technique is to use alternate hands, pulling upwards and releasing rhythmically and then reversing the process, beginning at the head of the lingam and stroking downwards.

The lingam may get alternately rigid and flaccid during the tantra lingam massage. This is of little consequence and does not reflect on the efficacy of the massage. On completion, the receiver should rest for several minutes either in utter quietness or to the strains of soft music. These are the basic tantra techniques that go into a full-fledged tantra lingam massage. Your tantra teacher will instruct you in advanced methods that deliver the utmost benefit of this healing, rejuvenating tantra ritual.

Acharya Subhojit Dasgupta is a Tantra Teacher with an in-depth knowledge of traditional Indian sciences and Sanskrit literature.