It is easy to assume that tantra helps us achieve multiple orgasms because of specific tantric techniques that boost our libido and performance. However, to fully understand how tantra delivers this Holy Grail of sexual pleasure, one must understand how tantra really works. Apart from its effects on the physical level, there are also deep psychological factors involved.
One of the first things that a tantra teacher focuses on in a tantra for couples setting is the building up of trust between the partners. How does this tie in with multiple orgasms? Very simply put, it is the lack of trust in ourselves and each other that prevents us from opening ourselves completely enough to experience it. Orgasm is definitely the very pinnacle of sexual pleasure, but it is also at this point that the human being is at his or her most vulnerable.
It is next to impossible to respond to any kind of threat while one is in the throes of sexual climax. Most protective reflexes shut down completely at this point. The mind, which is our primary defense system and tool, is unwaveringly focused on the pleasure it perceives. In order to fully understand this state of vulnerability, I would like to draw a parallel.
Imagine that India’s enemies were to launch a tactical offensive against the capital at the very point when Sachin Tendulkar is scoring the decisive run in his latest century. Arguably, the nation is at its weakest at such a point, since almost every Indian’s attention is focused on what is happening on that particular cricket field. An offensive launched at such a time would have extremely serious consequences.
What has this got to do with trust? Well, India has no option but to trust its enemies at this point. It has to trust them not to attack when the nation is at its weakest. For the record, I would like to say that this trust is not exactly realistic. However, the nation would not be able to fully celebrate Sachin’s latest feat if it were looking over its shoulders, fearing an attack.
In the same way, it is impossible to fully enjoy sexual intimacy without complete trust in one’s partner. At the moment of orgasm, all our defenses are down. We are fully open to the other. It takes trust to be able to experience even a single orgasm – and it takes trust of spiritual proportions in order to experience a series of climaxes.
This is the kind of trust that a tantra master will work at bringing about between partners during tantra for couples instructions. Without it, all his teachings will prove fruitless. Intimate partners must be willing to trust each other completely; and to achieve this, they must lower their masks and allow the walls that separate them to come down, as well. They must face each other in all their nakedness, both in a physical and psychological sense.
There can be no defenses in tantra. There can only be trust. Only when this trust is established do multiple orgasms become possible.
Acharya Subhojit Dasgupta is a Tantra Teacher with an in-depth knowledge of traditional Indian sciences and Sanskrit literature. Visit his tantra online guide for Tantra Lessons, kriyas and mudras from this young Tantra Master.